Abuse or bpd

[Netsirkx2]

Hello,
I have only been in my current relationship for 7 months and it has been a crazy rollercoaster. I’m confused between the difference of abusive behavior ( verbal mental digital)  and bpd. I don’t know how much more I can take of the verbal abuse during what I feel
Are small arguments/ disagreements. We are currently broken up since Thursday.  

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[once removed]

hi Netsirkx2, and

we can help!

we understand the roller coaster youve been on.

things can get better, but it will require a big investment, and a lot of practice.

a good place to start would be who broke up with whom? why? do you want her back?

[Netsirkx2]

So when we argue it seems to blow up
Rather quickly. He ( my boyfriend who has the classic signs of bpd) leaves my house in a huge storm says things like “I’m so f-ing  stupid to be with you” or he will throw me out of his house. Or he will say such horrible things that I just silently leave his home. 
Most of our arguments start in person and end in texting emails.  He has said such horrible things to me that I’m not even sure I can be intimate with him again after the things he said. He apologizes and says he’s sorry for the words that were said out of anger. But I’ve never heard any human being ever say the things he has said.

We have been talking again it’s a pattern. Big fight blow up. Then the live ones always him saying how he only wants me.

I did not know about triggers until I started researching. I’m basically one big trigger!  I mean my core person is an absolute trigger to bpd. I I had a sign I would wear it would say “steer clear bpds I will trigger you!


One huge trigger for him is I have many male friends and acquaintances. He does not want me to have this but these are my friends who came long before him. No relationship or anything with them just friends.

He says me having coffee with these men is the same as I feel if he were to sleep with another woman.

So do I ditch my buddies because my boyfriend has bpd? That seems pretty radical. Or is this the beginning phase of our relationship? I don’t want to ditch my friends and then I find myself lying when I do meet up for coffee.

I don’t know confused I thought maybe I’d ditch them for awhile and see if there is a change. Sometimes I feel if it’s not that it will be something else. 

[xadingo]

That was a pretty long list of cons.  Are there pros?  Like once removed said, it is a big investment.  What do you get out of it?