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I've been with my partner for eight months now. I'm 60, she's in her mid-50s. She did warn me at the outset that she has Bpd, and that there would be episodes of instability and difficulty, and I entered into the relationship with my eyes open - ish. I'm on the ASD spectrum, high functioning and mild symptoms, but I do have some problems with emotional intelligence. Some time ago I failed to recognise that she felt disrespected and insulted by a chance remark made by a mutual friend - that has now become a totem of my own disrespect and lack of support, and validation of her feelings, and completely overrides all the rest of the time when I support, comfort and validate her. She's a chronic cannabis user but is currently trying to refrain from using during the week, but it's having a very negative effect on her mood and on her view of me and our relationship. Tonight she accused me of deliberately setting out to hurt her by failing to support and respect her. I'm feeling hurt and bewildered. She'll probably be fine again once she's had a smoke on Friday... I love her dearly but I'm struggling a bit today...



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