I’m so sorry for your pain. One thing that I can tell you is that you were given a gift. This may sound weird, but most of the members here only suspect BPD. You know that he’s diagnosed. That doesn’t devalue him or make him a sub-human or anything crazy like that. What it does do is give you important information. BPD is a very severe condition. I feel very badly for people that suffer from it. At the same time, they are capable of causing a lot of suffering for the people around them.
The condition is also on a spectrum. It has been shown to ramp up with age, so odds are, you didn’t see the worst of it. Infidelity is a common thing with personality issues. I know that it sucks and that it hurts. I’m sorry for that. I truly am. Screen to screen.
You’re gonna be alright. Look, he doesn’t know who he is. That doesn’t dismiss the abuses that he perpetuated onto you. He’s clinically diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. Learn about the disorder. Everything that you need to know about it is here.
Don’t take what he did personally. It is in no way a reflection of you. Personality Disorders/Issues are very serious things. My heart goes out to the afflicted, but we can’t do anything for them unless they want to do something for themselves.
Unless I’m mistaken, do you like heavy metal? There’s a music thread going here. Stump the experts. Please share what you like or what is inspiring to you.