Trying to make it better

[srntynw]

I really need help.  I've been with my partner for three years now.  We've been through alot in this small amount of time.  We've lost a child- delivered stillborn, gone through a career change, job changes, school, and constant chaos in our family.  The random anger, blaming, and projecting are honestly tearing us apart.  He used to be my best friend, but I feel like I never really knew him now.  I'm so sick of the lies and manipulation.  I left my abusive ex-husband six years ago.  That relationship almost seemed easier.  I want to try to make it better and stay but I'm worried I'm just hurting myself more.

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[livednlearned]

We've lost a child- delivered stillborn, gone through a career change, job changes, school, and constant chaos in our family

That is a lot to go through. I'm so sorry for your loss, and trying to manage so much stress and grief with a partner who struggles to manage emotions is hard, to say the least.

I'm so sick of the lies and manipulation. 

What are some of the things going on?