BPD Husband - Financial Infidelity

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Hello everyone. My husband has been recently diagnosed with BDP since I uncovered he was lying to me about secret loans and depts amounting to tens of thousands of pounds over the course of 5+ years.  I have pushed for him to get a diagnosis as he has run into dept twice before that were smaller amounts and for the sake of our 3 very young children.  He has said that he loves me and has never stopped loving me but I wonder if it's just because he's scared of what he can lose.  He's never been good with change and I now have trust issues with him.  How can he love me when he has been decieptful?  How can I know if he really truly loves me?  I am not in love with him and would really need to work hard to try and get anything back.  I worry that by taking him back it will effect me long term.  Does anyone have any similar experience that can help me decide what to do?

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