Breakup/ confused

[Shak]

I met my gf a month after she broke up with her bf (a relationship of 5 years) as she said I don’t know if it’s true. He had already engaged her but didn’t work out. We started dating and things were going out well, but I noticed any little misunderstanding she wants to leave the r/tiship and tells me to come get my stuffs and there’s no love no chemistry and we weren’t compatible,( Happened thrice )Whenever there’s an argument she doesn’t reason like a normal being, she always want to be on the winning side, you can’t win an argument with her. She has BPD traits , We continued courting she loved bombed me and she Introduced me to her family vice versa. We were planning to get married. She was pregnant and i fell ill sometime. Then she called me she wanted to terminate the pregnancy that it didn’t showed that I cared. I pleaded with her and she kept the pregnancy. The relationship continued and an fateful day I received a text that she has terminated the pregnancy..I was sad and went to her told her the idea of her getting rid of the pregnancy is wrong. B4 now she has always complained that she isn’t ready for a pregnancy and was pleading with me to terminate it. I went to her and asked if she still wants to continue the relationship and that I still live her and she replied yes. We continued the relationship and we got an apartment together we hadn’t moved in yet but I was staying with her. On this very day I tried to touch her she pushed me away and I let her be. She went to bed, the next morning I went to her and kissed her and asked her if there’s a problem she said nothing. I went to work and I got back. She was preparing for her exams and I didn’t disturb her but noticed she was still distance from me. Two days later I aske her why she’s doing that and she told me she isn’t ready to live with me yet and she’s still wants to get to know me that we should rush things and we should take things slow, and that was her reason for getting rid of the pregnancy and that it’s not all about me. She told me it’s not a must I leave that same day that I can leave anytime. I was angry and left. I sent her a text that I understand we might have been rushing things and we can start afresh and I’ll get to understand better and do things differently. She never responded, not until 3 weeks after she reacted to the message ( breadcrumbs) and she never said anything. I didn’t want to rush things so
I called after a week and we spoke fine and I never brought up relationship discussions. It’s been another 3 weeks now and I haven’t heard from her either, she had blocked me on her what’s app and I never confronted her. My uncle called and she said she has gone back to her whom they both dated for 5 years and that I can always call her and if she misses my call she’ll always call back but I shouldn’t call her to meet up . I don’t know if she telling them truth or lieying. I love her and I’ll like to work things out. But I don’t know what to do. Her bday is coming up. I’m
Confused if I should wish her HBD or not

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