Hello
Tihg...and welcome.
Yep, dealing with these troubled individuals who share our lives can indeed be "hell on this earth." Pretty well everyone here is nodding their heads.
I, too, am a Mom. I, too, am seen by my daughter as being the reason for all her problems. It can be very difficult for us to carry the guilt that can come from those accusations. It can be very difficult to ward off the verbal abuse that comes our way. That has to change...and the change...the work...has to be done by us.
You really are ahead of the game in that your daughter is seeing therapists. Mind you, there are therapists and then there are therapists. Are you included in any of her therapies? Have you, yourself, sought out therapy for yourself...better armed yourself to deal with her behaviours?
So now back to you. You say that you need encouragement and that,
Tigh, you will get here. Share as much or as little as you want. What is the history you share with your daughter? What is happening with her now? For me, being able to put my fingers on the keyboard, pour out my heart and my hurts...then getting those words of encouragement from others...has been therapeutic. Hope it will be the same for you, too.
It is important to do your homework. Time-consuming? Yes...but you will reap benefits. This website abounds with information on how to start making those little changes that could well bring on better days. First and foremost this is all about...YOU...your well-being. Getting yourself back on track will be a slow progress but once you get a taste of being more empowered in standing up for yourself, you will strive for more.
From one Mom to another...I do encourage you on and send along some ((HUGS)
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Huat
