Hmmmmm? "Forever"... you are asking? Let me think.
We are now turning the calendar into the 5th year of being estranged from our daughter and the once-little-loves-of-our-lives...our 2 now adult grandchildren. This isn't the first time this has happened...most not as long...but so many that I can't give a count. Given our advanced ages, the reality is that it could well be our last.
We have years and years of history behind us, filled with drama caused by her...broken relationships, custody battles, single motherhood, financial difficulties...to say nothing of when those little grandchildren were kept on one side of the door while we were on the other. One would think this pandemic would bring this to an end. Seems not...but...no longer shedding the tears I did. Once a Mom, though, always a Mom...and every now and then my eyes do water up.
In our case, I am with
HurtBrooklyn on this one. Our daughter will have to come to us...but even in writing that...not so sure I want another run around the track...too old, too tired...doing just fine!
Oh our "honeymoons" with her have been great...promises of never-again's...but then out of the blue she will explode...because of...? This time she even threw in that my husband of 58 years (her father) is only staying with me because he is honouring his wedding vows. Ouch, huh? Well, also...GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!
Swimmy writes..."depending on circumstances sometimes stopping contact can be prudent, especially in cases of danger." I don't worry for my husband because he does no wrong in her eyes...won't have to worry if he is the one left behind. Me? Well...not so sure. I am being pro-active in that regard, though, with safe-guards being put in place.
So, what works for one does not necessarily work for another. Just make sure that you always take time to look after...
...you. That really was a turning point for me.
Huat