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Author Topic: Please help me, I'm losing it all over again  (Read 474 times)
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« on: December 03, 2020, 02:15:04 PM »

Ok , so me and my ex broke up earlier in the year, and she ended up moving out around June / July time.

She split with me, go with someone else, then went sour and at the end of October she ended back at mind, and has been here since.

But all isn't well, I'm not sure what to do at all. It's driving me crazy.

Some days, she's all cute, she's been buying me small gifts , nothing major, but is treating me to a meal , but she said it can't be a date ?, and has done numerous cute things.

We still share a bed , even though there's numerous spare rooms, but apart from the occasional cuddle were not really intimate.

She's all over the place , she started some new medication, which isn't helping, job at gives her a banging head, so has been told to stop till they find out what to do.

But the past has started repeating again Frustrated/Unfortunate (click to insert in post)

She's getting a little distant, she's started having secretive phone calls, she's glued to her phone most evenings, now she's started spending nights away.

Now I'm no idiot here, you don't have to tell me she's started seeing someone else, I can work that out myself, well , she might not be , but whatever.

Thing is I love her, but this is killing me, why can't I be her only option , why does she keep on loosing interest, then her fling will go cold , then no doubt she'll be back giving me 90% again.

I'm just worn out , now she's messaged me saying we should just be friends?
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« Reply #1 on: December 07, 2020, 09:18:40 PM »

Perhaps if she just wants to be friends and you aren’t intimate, it might be a good time to quit sharing a bed. It seems that she’s calling all the shots here, and if you’re just a cuddle toy, then by giving her what she wants (just friends), she might actually miss the closeness.
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