As you well know, these relationships aren’t easy. Here’s a short video on ending conflict
https://bpdfamily.com/content/ending-conflictIt’s frustrating but the responsibility for navigating these relationships ends up with the “non” partner. We need to be the emotional leader because otherwise our partners won’t do that.
Covid certainly has stressed out everyone, healthy people as well as people with personality disorders.
Silent treatment is an abusive tactic. Many of our members have been able to reframe it and enjoy it as alone time, but certainly it does not lead to furthering a healthy relationship.
What you have to do is to take care of your own emotions as best as you can. You already realize that you have little power to change him, but you can change how you respond. Sometimes that little shift in focus can overall change the relationship dynamic and lead to healthier patterns.