I have been in a relationship with a pwBPD for 5 years... as in all relationships we've had ups and downs, but generally it was (I thought) really good.
Christmas eve she was a couple of hours later than she said getting to my house (we don't live together) and I was annoyed as we had agreed to order pizza which was cold when she arrived. Christmas day she went back to hers in the evening to feed her cats and didn't come back... we had my children (14 and 16) and had agreed we'd play games when she got back.
She came back NYE and we had a great night. We had sex through the turn of the year and she was joking that she wouldn't tell my mum when she spoke to her the next day. She had arranged to spend some time with her son (21) on NYD and cook a meal. I drove her to her house to drop off the shopping and then we went back to mine. We lay on the sofa all day cuddling and watching TV. She had a doze... I made sure she was awake in time to go to hers to cook. She said she wouldn't take her meds with her as she'd be back the next morning, but I suggested she take the next days meds just in case... which she did. She didn't come back and ignored all contact attempts until she said she didn't want us to be together anymore.
She has been over 1 evening to collect her stuff but kept saying she'd leave certain items and collect them the next day... we had a few drinks and talked. She said we want different things and that our relationship can't work because she thinks my friends don't like her (they don't like that she treats me this way), but she wants us to stay "really close friends and to be able to come see my children. Then we had sex and she left saying she'd be back the next day. That was 4 days ago and she has contacted me every day to apologise for not being round and having some excuses and arranging a time (like morning or afternoon) to get the rest of her stuff... still no show.
I was sacked from my job mid December after her son reported me to my managers saying I had done something wrong and now my BPD thinks our relationship can't work because I was annoyed with her son.
I do love her, but what to do?
