I have a uBPD sister. I was an active member here 6-10 years ago. I read, researched & saw a therapist for help to cope. The support & info that I found here has helped me beyond measure. The validations, confirmations & similarities from members & moderators have given me immediate & long term cumulative support, relief & consolation. I am also grateful that this group remained constant & I could return & read/post when I needed to.
For years I thought of sis every night at bedtime. I prayed for help in resolving our issues. Finally I had to conclude that God had given me what was best...no resolution.
My main motivation for resolutions was my nephew. When he turned 18 and moved out, I no longer had any motivation to resolve anything with his mother. I concluded that I was good with NC. I finally accepted that I would never hear any remorse or regrets from her and she would never take responsibility for the lies & games.
A point I want to make is the TIME it took for all this to evolve...began in 2008 after I lost my Dad, a complication which added time to the whole process for sure. For 5 years we had contact off & on...mostly off. We planned therapy together twice & she bailed both times.
Another point I want to make is the VALUE of this group! It is safe & kind & always here for those of us struggling with the stress of BPD. I will always be grateful.
