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Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse... Have you considered that being critical, judgmental, or invalidating toward the other parent, no matter what she or he just did will only make matters worse? Someone has to be do something. This means finding the motivation to stop making things worse, learning how to interrupt your own negative responses, body language, facial expressions, voice tone, and learning how to inhibit your urges to do things that you later realize are contributing to the tensions.
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« on: February 08, 2021, 10:38:05 PM »
So I backed off from chasing my ex BPD and today I seen her in public with another guy. It appears I've been replaced. It hurts and saddens me. I've been struggling the last few days with missing her. One song that I have recently come to love brought tears to my eyes yesterday while I was driving. I'm trying to dedicate to myself and workout while trying to heal but I'm struggling.

I have noticed the last few days that my mind is trying to go to dark places again. I am trying to keep it from going there but I find it wandering there from time to time. I keep trying to pull my mind away from there.

I know it likely won't last going off of her past relationships that I know of. From what I know they haven't lasted more than a few months with the exception of me. If I'm honest I do find a little comfort in that but it does not stop the hurt.

Sometimes I wish I could just completely erase her from my mind. Kind of like the movie 'The Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.'
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« Reply #1 on: February 10, 2021, 10:15:27 AM »
Have you seen this article?  Surviving a breakup with someone who has BPD
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“The Four Agreements  1. Be impeccable with your word.  2. Don’t take anything personally.  3. Don’t make assumptions.  4. Always do your best. ”     ― Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom
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« Reply #2 on: February 10, 2021, 09:28:23 PM »
Actually I just read this article yesterday.  I remember reading it a few years back but it was good to read it again.
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