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I am curious if anyone else has had this happen, together 3.5 years, her idea was to take my parents along with us on a vacation. Once we returned she went completely cold on my parents and never came around ever again it was 8 months she stayed away. During that time I kept waiting and waiting for her to apologize to them, I let it go for a few months no effort on her part so I said something. She acted confused then the next day texted me saying "what am I apologizing for having depression"
Of course I had all the bpd episodes going on every 2 to 4 weeks during this, I am curious if this is a common thing or was it an attempt by her to drive a wedge between me and my family for control.
Those were our last 8 months together, the abuse I put up with was enough by dragging my family into it is unacceptable.
Im asking because I have been NC for a few weeks and I am still at the stage were I'm trying to make sense of it all.
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My exBPDgf was very jealous of my relationship with my daughter. When I would go tuck her in and read her a story I was accused of not wanting to be with her and rather be with my daughter. Another time my Mum came to stay whom I see once per year. I wanted to stay up to watch the end of a movie with my mum and she then got upset and wanted to go home, said I could have paused the movie to go cuddle her for 30 minutes until she fell asleep! The next day she had a mysterious pain in her arm and that night I sat with her all night as she cried and even ended up taking her to hospital. Other times she was great with my mum and the rest of my family especially my children.
I think they see it as some from of threat to your love and attention for them. Bizarre!
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