So confused

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So i have this girl who i am deeply in love with and have been since 2 years i have found out about 5 months ago she has bpd for one there have been so many situations and things shes done and i didnt have it in me to leave but now i am sick and tired exhausted and drained theres random guys texting her phone she has danced on another guy in front of me she flashed a guy through a video chat when she was on vacation in her country she has done all of these things to me said hurtful things about other men to my face i just need some advice on how to get over her and why she will never change no matter what and how to process my loss and move on from it please help

[Helpwanted233]

So i have this girl who i am deeply in love with and have been since 2 years i have found out about 5 months ago she has bpd for one there have been so many situations and things shes done and i didnt have it in me to leave but now i am sick and tired exhausted and drained theres random guys texting her phone she has danced on another guy in front of me she flashed a guy through a video chat when she was on vacation in her country she has done all of these things to me said hurtful things about other men to my face i just need some advice on how to get over her and why she will never change no matter what and how to process my loss and move on from it please help

[pynky80]

Its horrible to feel this way, esp when you feel so much for that person and it is obvious they dont feel the same way or cant feel the same way due to the bpd

I know the feeling of wanting to hang in there as i got dumped almost 1 month ago in a weirdly fairly nice way but then got blocked immediately and i still cry even now
all i can say is that if it is getting to much you have to try and get the strength from somewhere to leave and go no contact for your own health and well being

It is the hardest thing to do and i am even now looking into going on medication and i was only in the relationship for 6 weeks
Keep posting and reading everyones stories, i have started back from the 700+ page and working my way down and ive been doing that everyday its the only way i can cope at the moment

[Cromwell]

Id like to warm welcome you here Helpwanted223

Im interested to hear if you have had any breakups and much time apart during the relationship? I ask because I felt the tiredness, sickness and gave myself 4 weeks apart and it helped to notice during that time how I felt without her around emotionally and physically. How do you feel about giving yourself some space to rest and recuperate and let a bit of pressure off yourself for a bit? Not suggesting a break-up, but give a bit of distance to get the energy levels topped up.