Can you give an example of what has changed?
As a general statement, when "BPD" pushes in on you...it's important that you find space for yourself. Space to think..relax..reflect.
Best,
FF
It started with little comments, with some malice.
For example, I have stopped dying my hair and doing my nails because it made him feel insecure. One day I realized how idiotic that was. So one day I decided to do my nails.
And he noticed and he said:
when you do your nails it brings me back to when you broke up with me... and I replied:
One thing is not connected to the other. And this response triggered him because I was not being supportive of his feelings.
My phone ringing suddenly became a trigger for him.
Me mentioning my work colleagues (female friends) made him say:
I'm sure your work friends hate me. And then came a big one.
Last Friday.
We were at a cave, above the cave looking in.
He jumped over the security fence and swings my backpack like he was going to make it fall.
I was scared he might trip or the ground crack, there were warning everywhere to not be there.
So I asked him to come back to safety and he went on a spiral of hate towards me.
I shut up immediately and just listened to all that. That I was a terrible girlfriend. That I was an hypocrite. That he couldn't stand be around me.
He even felt the need to mention his ex (for when we were apart in 2019) had seen a picture of me and said he could have done better.
That he was the good looking one.
My self esteem never recovered from that and he knows it will be hard to get it back.
