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[MysteryAbounds]

I'm so confused.  I am recovering from the typical BPD, may not ever "walk" without an emotional "limp".  In continued research (always looking for a better way) I discovered my spouse of 35 years is BPD/NPD.  I DO see that he needs love and support but I feel like I am threatening my own recovery in trying to help him see what is going on.  I DO NOT want to hurt him or cause further injury; at the same time I wonder exactly how much I am expected to endure in an effort to help another.  I am SO tired...any advice would be GREATLY appreciated.  I don't doubt his love for me and at the same time I do NOT doubt his hatred for me or his "accounts" of how I deserve whatever injury he deems fit in the moment.   

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[once removed]

theyre confusing circumstances, for sure. can you tell us more about whats going on between you and your spouse; what injury does he think you deserve?

we can help.

[Rev]

Hi there,

Just replying and echoing what Once just said...

Maybe two sets of eyes (ears) are better than one. 35 years is a long time to be carrying stuff.

Lot's of experience here.

Rev