pwBPD hates when people eat “her food”- she doesn’t like to share

[Boogie74]

Is there anyone that has this experience?   J insists that she have a dedicated assignment of “her foods and drinks” for HER consumption only.

I can’t buy or eat foods that we BOTH enjoy- because she fears it will be eaten before she gets her chance to eat it.   Often, I am forbidden to eat her foods in the refrigerator or freezer- and they eventually go bad and must be thrown away- as she lets the clock run out on eating them.  

There is a story she and her family have told of she and her father getting into an hours long shouting match/extreme argument because her father ate a can of Spaghettio’s and she claims she bought it for herself.

Today, she insisted that I ate pieces of HER loaf of bread- while MY loaf of bread (same bread except my bread wasn’t as fresh).   No amount of explanation to her that I DIDNT eat all her bread would suffice- I was at fault and guilty of being selfish and narcissist (not sure how that comes to be).  

Am I alone in this problem?  

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Today, she insisted that I ate pieces of HER loaf of bread- while MY loaf of bread (same bread except my bread wasn’t as fresh).   No amount of explanation to her that I DIDNT eat all her bread would suffice

not to put too fine a point on it, but its important for context: did you eat some/any of her bread?

[Boogie74]

not to put too fine a point on it, but its important for context: did you eat some/any of her bread?

Not after she defined “her bread” vs “my bread” (they are the same brand, same exact type)

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so to clarify, youre saying she accused you of eating her bread, and you did not, in fact, eat her bread?

[Boogie74]

so to clarify, youre saying she accused you of eating her bread, and you did not, in fact, eat her bread?

Not sure how else to put this except no- I did not eat “her bread”.

Even if I had- I don’t know how to buy and eat food that we both happen to like without having to label my bag of bread vs her bag of bread.   Another example- we have several bottles of apple juice- same exact brand and size.   One is open in the refrigerator.   I went to pour a glass for myself and she insisted that I leave the cold one for her and open a warm bottle for myself.   She gave up the argument when I asked (out of pure need to know) how we should tell the two apart in the refrigerator- should we label them?