BTW, I am highly empathic, a pleaser and giving by nature and let too many people take advantage of me in the past and it is a daily focus to maintain a balanced relationship and friendships. Take care
Hi
FuzzyBunny, and thanks for posting after a long hiatus. I think you brought up some really good points about how a person is likely to keep finding themselves in the same situation until some changes are made, more potential BPD relationships--ick. Glad to hear you broke the cycle, what, 6 years ago now?
I think your description of yourself fits many of the people here and why we get stuck in those toxic r/s and how our partners wBPD take advantage of that.
This was such a traumatic experience, I fear I will never even date again. How did you get past the final hump, and put yourself in a vulnerable position, and open up? I also went from dysfunctional relationship to another. I have done a complete turn around and have not talked to one male in a romantic way. I keep fearing this horrible experience will be the last thing I have to remember about love. Sorry to make this post about me, I just needed to talk to someone who has been away for years. You give me hope!--Confused4now
Hi
Confused. 15 months out, I'm feeling like you are. Although I can't stand being alone, the thought of getting into another BPD r/s has me so scared I'd rather face the loneliness than jump into a bowl of toxic soup to get pulled down into its vortex of doom! So
you give
me hope I can make it (twice as long?). You know, it may work out for us after all
. It did for FuzzyBunny, although another 4 years of crud isn't very appealing. We may need to take a leap of faith.
