No Contact

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Is no contact considered to be the best practice here to heal from an ex with bpd?  I read the article on the site but I guess I am looking for some reassurance that it is the best thing to do.

[TaylorDurden]

Is no contact considered to be the best practice here to heal from an ex with bpd?  I read the article on the site but I guess I am looking for some reassurance that it is the best thing to do.

[EYFGT]

It is what I would highly recommend! I did the back and forth thing for months before finally going no contact. I’ve made more progress since then x100000

[SinisterComplex]

The answer is...it depends. What are your goals? What is the outcome that you want? What would be using No contact for? No contact works yes, but to say it is the best...no one declare that. Perhaps it may be the best course of action for you. I know you are looking for reassurance but this is a decision you have to make on your own. Essentially, what I think doesn't matter and isn't of much consequence. How do you feel? What do you think? Perhaps by telling me why you think and feel no contact is the best option for you may help you figure out how you want to go about things. All I will say is that you have to put yourself first and you have to decide what you think is truly in your best interests.

Cheers and best wishes!

-SC-

[TaylorDurden]

The answer is...it depends. What are your goals? What is the outcome that you want? What would be using No contact for? No contact works yes, but to say it is the best...no one declare that. Perhaps it may be the best course of action for you. I know you are looking for reassurance but this is a decision you have to make on your own. Essentially, what I think doesn't matter and isn't of much consequence. How do you feel? What do you think? Perhaps by telling me why you think and feel no contact is the best option for you may help you figure out how you want to go about things. All I will say is that you have to put yourself first and you have to decide what you think is truly in your best interests.

I’m looking to move on and remove this toxic person from my life. From my thoughts. From my energy.

[rob66]

Sounds like the best thing for you is no contact. The decision to move on is sometimes made though the lens of a broken heart, and contact can be that part of ourselves that still wants things to work out. However, if you really want to move on, then I don't see how maintaining contact would help you.

[SinisterComplex]

I’m looking to move on and remove this toxic person from my life. From my thoughts. From my energy.

No contact is the way to go then. Start focusing on healing and doing for yourself. The most important thing you are going to have to do is find something that can you can place your focus on to help the no contact stick.

You need to heal and there are going to be many ups and downs and you are going to face moments of weakness. It is in those moments of weakness I would urge you to turn to this board or for you to have a hobby in place that can shift your focus away.

Cheers and best wishes!

-SC-