Dealing with moving out issues and ending the relationship

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

I can’t begin to explain how helpful it has been to see all of my messages from throughout this year. It provides a great picture of how much we went through and how easily I accepted that this will work out between us. The proof there all along it wouldn’t. I look back now and see : discovering she was surfing Tinder at times, the unreciprocated emotional support. Seeing how it changed me. I went from never drinking to allowing for it to watching it turn into little benders. The constant hope that after any type of disagreement or misunderstanding there would be an opportunity to talk it over. Finally accepting that’s not something that was ever to happen. I do love her and feel for her but definitely still see loud and clear that it’s past the point of any reconciliation, though I’m not looking to save or fix it. The troubling thing is our lease/apartment. She cut off contact after I repeatedly ask her to stop harassing me. I see she posted her room and I am pretty sure she has been working the last few days so work sleep work… I want to write her to talk about the move stuff but don’t want to trigger her especially since her unwarranted call to the police days ago. Also the last communication we had was when she text threatened me to move or she’d…..  however she did post it , told the landlord she is moving and I’m not seeing any formal statement that she isn’t moving. I posted it and have responses but don’t know where my pwBPD is at. My gut says don’t contact her and that possibly she will contact me regarding moving, I don’t know…anyone out there deal with moving out issues when choosing to end the relationship? Stories? Advice? Really appreciate it….

[Firsttimefather]

I can’t begin to explain how helpful it has been to see all of my messages from throughout this year. It provides a great picture of how much we went through and how easily I accepted that this will work out between us. The proof there all along it wouldn’t. I look back now and see : discovering she was surfing Tinder at times, the unreciprocated emotional support. Seeing how it changed me. I went from never drinking to allowing for it to watching it turn into little benders. The constant hope that after any type of disagreement or misunderstanding there would be an opportunity to talk it over. Finally accepting that’s not something that was ever to happen. I do love her and feel for her but definitely still see loud and clear that it’s past the point of any reconciliation, though I’m not looking to save or fix it. The troubling thing is our lease/apartment. She cut off contact after I repeatedly ask her to stop harassing me. I see she posted her room and I am pretty sure she has been working the last few days so work sleep work… I want to write her to talk about the move stuff but don’t want to trigger her especially since her unwarranted call to the police days ago. Also the last communication we had was when she text threatened me to move or she’d…..  however she did post it , told the landlord she is moving and I’m not seeing any formal statement that she isn’t moving. I posted it and have responses but don’t know where my pwBPD is at. My gut says don’t contact her and that possibly she will contact me regarding moving, I don’t know…anyone out there deal with moving out issues when choosing to end the relationship? Stories? Advice? Really appreciate it….

[BigOof]

Cut your losses as quickly as possible. The criminal law is not on your side and she might use as a sword rather than a shield.