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Author Topic: Venting. Confused. Feel free to drop whatever you want.  (Read 418 times)
dirtrepublic
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Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Forever alone
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« on: December 07, 2021, 03:12:46 PM »

 Welcome new member (click to insert in post) Hi, ive been reading these forums for a bit.

Its been two years since i last talked to the girl, who has bpd. I have no desire to get her back. But I'm barley actually accepting my emotions. Accepting that I loved her deeply. The reason why I didn't want to was because she's put everyone through the ringer and I didn't wanna be the dumbass to also be put through her ringer. She barley let me get to even know her before lovebombing and I was trying to slow things down, but she just called it me essentially being a hoe, (which was funny not gonna lie) but yeah.

It's been 2 years and she tried adding one of my newer accounts that isn't so obviously me. Maybe she didn't know it was me, so i dont think too hard about it.

But then I started doing well. We have a mutual friend and that friend posted about me and how they love me, and next thing I know, the morning after, the bpd girl deleted her whole social media account. I don't know if it was because of me, but coincidences are coincidences. I don't know. Feel free to put what you think.

I hate still going crazy over this chic even though I didn't wanna be in her mess in the first place, just found myself in it.

Jeez. Feel free to tell me anything you want, take this with what you will.

 Way to go! (click to insert in post) and have a nice day.
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Woolspinner2000
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« Reply #1 on: December 12, 2021, 06:34:02 AM »

Hi dirtrepublicWelcome new member (click to insert in post)

Welcome! I think it's good that you are taking the time to look at the emotions that you haven't been able to figure out.

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Its been two years since i last talked to the girl, who has bpd. I have no desire to get her back. But I'm barley actually accepting my emotions. Accepting that I loved her deeply.

We are here on this site to learn from our choices, whether they're good or bad. They're just choices, and understanding why we made them in the first place provides deeper insight into who we are.

What do you think you need to do in order to detach from the feelings you have for her? What might that look like for you?

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