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Question: Have you had a restraining order served on you or have you had to serve a restraining order?  (Voting closed: December 13, 2021, 10:02:16 PM )
I served my BPD with one (no police involvement) - 0 (0%)
I was served by my BPD with one (no police involvement) - 0 (0%)
The police encouraged me to serve one - 1 (20%)
I served a stalker with one - 2 (40%)
I have no experience with restraining orders - 2 (40%)
Total Voters: 4

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« on: December 08, 2021, 10:02:16 PM »

Just curious what kind of experience others here have with restraining orders, also known as Orders of Protection in most states in the U.S.
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« Reply #1 on: December 10, 2021, 09:39:06 AM »

Moved back and responding to bump it to the top.
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« Reply #2 on: December 10, 2021, 10:33:40 AM »

With a BPD, maybe better questions are how are they used by BPDs and how should you use them?

Q: How does a BPD use a (temporary) restraining order?
A: As a tool for evicting you and robbing you of any shared belongings.

Q: How should you use them? 
A: As a pathway for criminal charges.

Others please chime in with what they've experienced.
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« Reply #3 on: December 11, 2021, 08:50:06 AM »

Hi BigOof,
Thank you but the thread was intended for the Parents With board.  I'm curious if a BPD parent has served anyone here with one, or...if anyone has successfully served a parent.  The poll was just to get an idea of if it even happens.  Then I wanted to ask for details of how it was possible to even do it.  I mean, what does one have to prove to get a restraining order against their Mom? 

My BPD mom used to grab me by my ponytail and swing me around as a kid.  I guess if she came to my house and did that (uninvited, after I asked her not to show up), then maybe I'd have a pretty good case against her?  I'm not sure that a text dual would be enough, however, unless there were actual threats of bodily harm made.  I don't know though, hence the poll.

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