Setting guidelines for bpd and being disowned

[Depression = 72% of members]

Hello ,
    Sadly , after dealing with my sister with undiagnosed bpd ( there’s nothing wrong with her).  I have now been disowned and she hates me ( quotes from her text)
    She had COVID and her 10 days feel on Dec 24 . She still seemed ill and our Mother is 86 . Good health but still she’s 86 .
 I asked my sister to take a COVID test just to be sure as she seemed to be telling people she was sick .
    She disowned me forever, told my mother she hated her , disowned her and she will have nothing to do with the family as I have been trying to get her out of the family and I won .
     This was  not my intention, I just wanted to insure she was still not ill .
     She has ruined most , if not all holidays but her tantrums or crying due to not getting a specific gift and the list goes on and on .
    My family says let her go but my mother is pretty heartbroken

[blackwhitecat]

Hello ,
    Sadly , after dealing with my sister with undiagnosed bpd ( there’s nothing wrong with her).  I have now been disowned and she hates me ( quotes from her text)
    She had COVID and her 10 days feel on Dec 24 . She still seemed ill and our Mother is 86 . Good health but still she’s 86 .
 I asked my sister to take a COVID test just to be sure as she seemed to be telling people she was sick .
    She disowned me forever, told my mother she hated her , disowned her and she will have nothing to do with the family as I have been trying to get her out of the family and I won .
     This was  not my intention, I just wanted to insure she was still not ill .
     She has ruined most , if not all holidays but her tantrums or crying due to not getting a specific gift and the list goes on and on .
    My family says let her go but my mother is pretty heartbroken

[bugwaterguy]

That sounds awful.

Maybe you and your mom could read Stop Walking On Eggshells together?