So hurt

[Ripley]

Hi Everyone,

I’m new here. My daughter in law has BPD and I am now alienated from my son and my grandchildren bc I went against her. My son is totally co dependent and brainwashed. I’m so afraid of not seeing my grandkids. Don’t know what to do. I’m so depressed.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[offthepedestal]

So Hurt,

I am so sorry you are going through this.  I have just realized this is likely my reality as well and I don't know much about what to expect but I do understand the heartbreak.  Sending you hugs.

[Sancho]

Hi Ripley. I am so sorry you are in this situation.

Can you tell us a bit more about what happened that caused this? Mind you, not much needs to happen for a BPD person to shut the door on someone. Is it possible that with a bit of time passing things might improve?

I know it is unbearable pain to be cut off from your loved son and loved grandchildren. I am hoping there is a thread of possibility that things might get better.

I do hope so. Sending hugs  . . . . .

[By Still Water]

Hello Ripley,
    The pain is so deep, I know, as our adult uBPD son has cut us off for several months. Our hearts go out to you.
    What support system do you have around you? This might be a support group or a group of friends...or a local NAMI support group. Our church had a support group for family members who were affected by caring for loved ones with mental health issues. We found it to be helpful for bearing the burden...finding understanding friends, etc.