A long analysis of bpd-like argument

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Over the last few days I've taken a deep dive into the analyses online of the recorded arguments between Johnny Depp and Amber Heard. (they both knew the recordings were being made, it was part of their couples therapy).

It is SO triggering to listen to, and also extremely validating. Because no one ever heard us two having these 'fights' (that's what she called them, they were not in any normal sense of the word a fight- she would be attacking me, getting extremely emotional, belittling me, mocking me- and I would very calmly and patiently try to defend myself, makes points (constantly interrupted), try to be heard, etc. etc.

It was EXACTLY like these recordings. Johnny is very calm, trying to make points, and she is diverting, gaslighting, yelling, ignoring, interrupting, twisting his words, denying she said something, accusing, name-calling, suddenly explosions of temper...

I don't know if it's appropriate to post a link here to the video I've listened to that is done by a mental health professional. And I'm very, very cognizant that it might be very triggering for people, and I'm aware that this touches on accusations of DV that may not be appropriate here.

I just wanted to share my experience that I feel seen and heard by this mental health professional who is analyzing the arguments, and maybe some of you would too.

I have spent a LONG time being very confused, running these 'fights' over and over in my head, trying to understand them, trying to figure out what I did wrong, thinking it was all my fault. It's unbearable.

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Over the last few days I've taken a deep dive into the analyses online of the recorded arguments between Johnny Depp and Amber Heard. (they both knew the recordings were being made, it was part of their couples therapy).

It is SO triggering to listen to, and also extremely validating. Because no one ever heard us two having these 'fights' (that's what she called them, they were not in any normal sense of the word a fight- she would be attacking me, getting extremely emotional, belittling me, mocking me- and I would very calmly and patiently try to defend myself, makes points (constantly interrupted), try to be heard, etc. etc.

It was EXACTLY like these recordings. Johnny is very calm, trying to make points, and she is diverting, gaslighting, yelling, ignoring, interrupting, twisting his words, denying she said something, accusing, name-calling, suddenly explosions of temper...

I don't know if it's appropriate to post a link here to the video I've listened to that is done by a mental health professional. And I'm very, very cognizant that it might be very triggering for people, and I'm aware that this touches on accusations of DV that may not be appropriate here.

I just wanted to share my experience that I feel seen and heard by this mental health professional who is analyzing the arguments, and maybe some of you would too.

I have spent a LONG time being very confused, running these 'fights' over and over in my head, trying to understand them, trying to figure out what I did wrong, thinking it was all my fault. It's unbearable.