We were together 2.5 years, shared a blended family, as my kids loved his kids very much. The relationship started to break down around Thanksgiving, after 6 months of therapy. He discarded me twice before, and I always chased him back and we’d reunite. Although this time There have been no random texts from him, zero signs of emotion. He just ended it and moved on. I saw him with another woman a week later. He kept me hanging, and went to the arms of someone else. When I confronted him about it, he was cold and indifferent, said he “will always love me but wants to just be alone.” That was it. After plans to marry, all the dreams and future plans. I’m still struggling 3 months later. Silence from him, other than a text a few weeks ago in response to my many emails and texts over the last months - “we should never be ashamed of the love we both lived. Take card of you.” Those are the only words he has spoken to me since. Heartbroken and still so confused. .
It sucks what happened to you. Ouch indeed. Well coming here was a good decision. Here you will receive plenty of support and we actually care. Welcome to the fam.
One thing I see is that a pattern was created and you didn't follow his script. It is a like a cat and mouse game. His response and reaction is also quite narcissistic and shows that he wanted you to chase. It appears he always has to be in the 1 up position which is a very unhealthy dynamic.
Please be kind to you and remind yourself that you did not deserve this, earn it, etc. None of that. The hardest part is also to not take it personally. It is most certainly a HIM problem and not a YOU problem.
I urge you to continue posting here and use this as a resource to heal. We wil have your back here and hopefully be a great help in getting you healed and turned into a stronger, better version of YOU.
Cheers and best wishes!
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