This thread is amazing because it answers the question
@zondolit posed in this thread (
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=352662.0) a day or two ago.
I think this is how a MC
SHOULD handle it, but I gather from most of our experiences here, too often the MC glosses over or outright ignores the potential mental illness or disorders of one partner, and takes the hamfisted approach of trying to get them to improve communication, which is like trying to use a bandaid to plug a gushing hole in a watermain.
I can understand that MC is really not a venue to diagnose and address one party's mental illness; but I think it's unprofessional none-the-less for MCs to therefore simply keep taking their money and wasting their time, while they know, or
SHOULD KNOW that any improvement is futile, and is maybe even enabling further abuse of the non-disordered partner.