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VIDEO: "What is parental alienation?" Parental alienation is when a parent allows a child to participate or hear them degrade the other parent. This is not uncommon in divorces and the children often adjust. In severe cases, however, it can be devastating to the child. This video provides a helpful overview.
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« on: April 30, 2022, 03:43:25 PM »

I recently met the fiancee of one of my relatives. She has an online presence which portrays her as perfect: wonderful friend, well dressed in highly polished professionally taken photos, highly successful in interacting with children and parents, many pictures embracing other people (mostly friends and family), many awards celebrating her accomplishments, incredible wedding website and personal professional website. Her facebook page shows her with many different boyfriends over the years. I only interacted with her for a few minutes and found her to be unkind and rude. I think she might be a narcissist, and her future husband is going to see the ugly side of her once they are married. I think I saw her ugly side because I am a person whom she is not interested in impressing and not worthy of her time. I am very suspicious of people who show no signs of being humble or vulnerable, and who are unkind, especially to a person he/she is meeting for the first time and in a less than 10 minute interaction, is abrupt and unkind. What do you think? What are your experiences?
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« Reply #1 on: April 30, 2022, 05:16:22 PM »

I recently met the fiancee of one of my relatives. She has an online presence which portrays her as perfect: wonderful friend, well dressed in highly polished professionally taken photos, highly successful in interacting with children and parents, many pictures embracing other people (mostly friends and family), many awards celebrating her accomplishments, incredible wedding website and personal professional website. Her facebook page shows her with many different boyfriends over the years. I only interacted with her for a few minutes and found her to be unkind and rude. I think she might be a narcissist, and her future husband is going to see the ugly side of her once they are married. I think I saw her ugly side because I am a person whom she is not interested in impressing and not worthy of her time. I am very suspicious of people who show no signs of being humble or vulnerable, and who are unkind, especially to a person he/she is meeting for the first time and in a less than 10 minute interaction, is abrupt and unkind. What do you think? What are your experiences?

Working in sales and customer service unfortunately that tends to be the norm...Laugh out loud (click to insert in post). However, zachira I do agree with your assessment to an extent. One other thing though just to play devil's advocate...perhaps she felt intimidated or threatened by you. Could also be a combination...in the sense she felt you saw through her and reacted in defense because she didn't want to be outed and have her cover blown. Just some food for thought...

Cheers and best wishes!

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« Reply #2 on: April 30, 2022, 05:24:15 PM »

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Thanks for your thoughts. I do think the truth is probably somewhere in between. I think there is something very insecure about her to act the way she did, and I can't really know as I am not a mind reader. It surprised me that she acted so badly when it is the only time we have ever met and it was such a brief interaction.
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« Reply #3 on: April 30, 2022, 09:26:51 PM »

How was she unkind and rude?
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