My husband is Boarderline

[Wifeyofbpd]

Hi, I just found this forum from reading walking on eggshells. I have been so in need of discussing my relationship to my husband with someone who is going through or has been through this. The insane mood changes, emotions, and verbal belittling have taken their toll. I need to decide whether or not this is even something that is salvageable. I have two small children. My husband is the sole caregiver. I worry about what he’ll we would have to go through to get out of this relationship, or if there is hope for him. He is in therapy, which is a start but I have extreme compassion fatigue.
Love to hear from anyone!

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[thankful person]

Hi wifey and welcome to bpd family. This is an amazing group of people and I do believe that what I have learnt on here has saved my marriage. My wife was diagnosed bpd before we met and went through therapy, but doesn’t believe she has a problem at all. I wanted to give you hope, that there is so much to learn here. Personally I have made all these changes on my own, without my wife needing to admit she has a problem and work on herself. I strongly recommend you read “stop caretaking the borderline or narcissist”, which also taught me much of what I have learnt. Also, “raising resilient children with a borderline or narcissist” by the same people. We also have two young children and my wife is pregnant with our third. I didn’t think we would make it, but things are so much calmer here now. There is much you can do to change things. I found it really helped to recount specific conversations and situations on here and people helped me to see how I could have handled it differently. I wish you all the best on this journey. You are in the right place.