My wife who I was with for 10 years suddenly completely changed after her mom passed away. It was about three months after her mom's passing and she started with depression, became cold and distant.
Then one day she completely changed looked at me and said I ruined her life I was controlling she had resentment towards me and didn't know if she loved me anymore. She gave me silent treatment and was cold and distant for almost 2 months no sex no affection. After the two months she came out of it and said she didn't remeber how she treated me or what she said. Everything was okay for around 9 months and then all of a sudden I started seeing mood swings again, becoming cold and distant and not wanting to see me or go out together.
We went to dinner and she told me she loved me and everything was okay and the next day she said she wanted a divorce. Shortly after that I found out she monkey branched to another guy who she would never ever have interest in and is now infatuated with him. She moved out and our realtionship is over.
There has been no charming that I know of except she has lied to everyone and anyone about her actions and our seperation. We were inseparable for almost 10 years and then her mom passed away and she has taken on a new identity and personality.
She had a horrible childhood filled with emotional family abuse and domestic violence issues.
How is it possible we were inseparable for 10 years best friends amazing marriage and then all of a sudden she hates me, cheats moves in with a new BF, leaves me and acts like I never existed to her. I am completely devastated I feel like I'm in a nightmare. We have been NC for 3 months.
Dino, welcome to the fam.
. I am happy you found us, but of course sorry for the circumstances that led to you having to seek us out. This will be a great resource for you and also a safe place.
So, I am not so sure this is Borderline behavior. Unfortunately, her mother's passing was a huge trigger. There is a lot to unpack. Obviously grief is playing a huge role and there could be some post traumatic stress at play as well. Impossible to say for sure. All I can tell you is to keep coming back here. Keep sharing. Vent. Ask questions. We have your back here.
Cheers and best wishes!
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