Hi SweetieChimp, you're in the right place to find people who understand, and to learn more about BPD and how it impacts relationships.
One place to start is by checking out this article, on
What Does it Take to Be in a Relationship with a person with BPD?
I see that your BF wants to reconnect; what about you? What do you think you want at this point?
Feel free to settle in, read some posts and articles, and let us know your thoughts, whenever works for you;
kells76