Online harassment

[peterpiper]

My 3 siblings and I have known our mother is a "high-conflict person" our whole lives, but it became pretty personal when each of us got married and started having kids. We've all worked hard to create our own personal boundaries - some of us are in contact with her and some are not. My dad lets her do what she wants and chooses her side in every conflict. But she is now harassing other people on Facebook  - extended family members, community members, old friends, etc. She writes weird and somewhat offensive messages both publicly and privately. A lot of people are expressing concern about her behavior. She and dad have isolated themselves socially over the years so many people don't know how bad/weird/explosive her behavior can be. It's difficult to know how to respond to people's questions - mom has never had a formal diagnosis - and some siblings want to confront her to ask her to stop. I don't think it's going to do any good... So I'm wondering how you deal with the impact of the (likely) BPD's behavior on other people? Is it worth trying to say anything to her about it?

[GaGrl]

If your mother has not been diagnosed and has done nothing to this point to address her behaviors, I doubt she has the welfare flex room to accept that her behavior is offensive/unacceptable to others.

Are you on social media with her?

Are the people concerned those to whom you could say, "We too are concerned but have been unable to discuss it with her."

Then let it lie.