Hi again Sea, nice to hear back from you.
She does say she was psychotic but now thinks she is "back to normal" and this is just a new version of herself.
Well, it does sound positive that she acknowledges the psychotic break, though that would be difficult to hear her say "But I'm all better now!".
Is there any followup care/counseling happening? If so, does she comply with it (attend appointments etc)?
If not, I'm wondering if her openness to having ADHD/autism (even though perhaps those aren't really what's going on) could be a doorway for her to get long term counseling. I.e., if she doesn't see the psychosis and potential BPD as issues, maybe she'd be more okay with seeing ADHD/autism as issues, and that could be how she gets long term professional involvement. I'd suspect that professionals would be able easily to tell the difference between autism and BPD psychosis!
She went to stay at a friends for a couple of nights so that was nice, the community team have confirmed to me that they can help her with accommodation if that's something she wants.
The thing is- I don't think she is going to say she wants that; we have had a very close relationship and she hates leaving me. I keep telling her that I am fine on my own and I have my own things to do but she is not really hearing that...
She says she doesn't want to live here anymore when she is agitated, but when things are going well/I am not under her feet or doing something she needs then it's all fine (for her)
I honestly think the best thing for her would be to have her own space and help from community so I can be mum again.
I hear you, that makes a lot of sense -- that it'd be better for your relationship for each of you to have space from each other.
That's good that the community team can help with housing. Is that a team through the university?
How is your house set up right now? Do you have to share a lot of space with your D24 (kitchen, bath, etc)? I'm assuming she has her own room?
Have you had any experience with suggesting a move to someone who might react strongly to it? Any advice from the community is very much appreciated! I love her and want to do what's best for her mental health but also need to protect my own...
While I haven't had that experience (the pwBPD in my life isn't a child or adult child), I know there are other parents here who have had to navigate helping their young adult child find a separate place to live. Sometimes it doesn't work, sometimes it does. I think it's wise for you to think through what your D24 is actually like -- that yes, she would likely react strongly to you telling her "you have to move out". That means that you can plan ahead and brainstorm approaches that she will be more open to.
Does she react strongly to feeling like someone is trying to "convince" her of something?
Let us know how you've been doing, whenever works for you;
kells76
