First time

[Beginnerinlove]

Hello to everyone!  it's very difficult to write anything, I feel like He's gonna find out about this and He'd think I am looking for someone else because he is not good enough for me, it's such a strange feeling... it feels like I am betraying him even though I know it's irrational.
Well, I am here because knowledge it's driving me crazy. I have been married to this wonderful person for 7 years, at the beginning He told me that a psychologist told him he has BDPD, but I didn't want to listen, He was perfect to me, a kind, intelligent with a great sense of humour person, it didn't make sense, people with BPD aren't like this I tought. Well... now I have accepted that it's true and He had BPd and I am not the problem but know I don't know what to do or how to behave with him  I am not longer living as I'd like to, I often feel guilty and anxious that anything that may happen is my fautl because I didn't give the right answer..

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[thankful person]

Hi beginner and welcome, you have so much to learn here which hopefully will help you and your relationship. I understand it feels like a betrayal but my life and marriage has improved so much from everything I’ve learnt here. The good folk here keep me sane like seriously it is so nice to be understood and not judged and to realise we’re not the crazy ones. I’m on here almost every day but I always delete the history on my phone (Not that I think my wife looks at it but can’t be too careful and I wouldn’t put it past her). I think she has seen bpd audible titles in my Amazon bought list, but has never questioned me about it.  (She is diagnosed bpd but considers that she no longer has any symptoms, this is so wrong but that’s the delusional aspect at play…) At first it feels like this material will be here for ever and it’s a bit disturbing, but when I’ve tried to find even my own previous posts I struggle, it really does feels like it disappears after a couple of weeks being on the main page.

[outhere]

I also worried the first time I posted to these forums and I think that alone speaks volumes about the situation we find ourselves in.  Break the chains, express yourself!