My husband went no contact with his family when we met. The stories he told me were horrifying and I felt protective of him. What terrible people to do those horrible things to him. The only family he had was me.
When we divorced, he reunited with his family.
He attended family reunions, and birthday, and looked happy in photos posted online.
Maybe your husband will fall apart. He probably will, at least in the short term.
He might meet someone a week later.
My ex almost lost his job during our divorce. He ended up getting his dream job. He told me his family cut him out of the will and when his mother died, she left him half of everything.
Divorce is going to be hard on both of you.
It is strange to say this, but I almost miss how raw I felt. It was deeply real and very painful and exquisitely transformative. A window will open that lets you access parts of yourself that will eventually close.
Feel those feelings and learn how to breathe through them and accept them as part of yourself.
It was odd to discover that crying brings relief. Sometimes we get so good at avoiding pain we cut off other feelings too.
Hopefully this next part of your journey will bring much relief mixed in with the pain.
