Not sure if this is the final discard

[Stros78]

Things with my boyfriend have been rocky since he regained full custody of his teenage daughter. He ghosted me for about a week after having one of his rages, but he came back.

After not seeing him for two weeks, he invited me over and we had a really amazing time. He was super sweet and telling me he missed me and he gave me money to fix my car even though I didn’t ask him, and he even asked if I would take care of his pets for him while he went on vacation.

I haven’t been allowed to meet his daughter yet, so when it got close to the time she was due home, I told him I should be leaving. He felt sad and said he didn’t want me to leave yet, so he said he would ask his daughter if she was OK with me coming over back over & meeting her. I never heard a word from him the rest of the night so I don’t know if she refused or if he just never asked her.

The next day he invited me over, but then quickly sent me to the store to do some grocery shopping for him. When I got back, we only had maybe 20 minutes to hang out before his daughter was due home. I got irritated because he’s being so wishy-washy about letting me meet her. So I grabbed my purse and left and he said “you’re not gonna meet her when you’re pissing me off” and I said “I don’t think I’m gonna be allowed to meet her ever.”

He texted me maybe an hour later asking why I was acting like that but I didn’t respond. Maybe four hours after that he said Yep you’re never meeting my daughter. We’re done for real. It’s been fun. I wish you well.”

I thought he was just in one of his moods because he says every other week “I’m done with you”, but he comes back around. I reached out to him after maybe 5 days asking if he was seriously ending a year long relationship over something so petty as me leaving in a bad mood. He didn’t respond, so I got a little sassy and said that I hope him and his ex-wife get back together (she cheated on him, but he cheated on me with her). And I said one day he would realize what a good thing he had and he’s tossing it away to go back to a woman like that. Now I regret being that sassy. He left on a family vacation maybe a week and a half after that and won’t be due back for another couple of weeks, so I don’t know if I can expect him to reach out when he’s back home. This is the longest he’s gone without contacting me.

My heart is broken because he said I was nicer and sweeter to him than any other woman he’s been with, aside from a woman he dated in his mid-20s. She is the only ex of his whom he says nice things about. I’ve been there for him through a lot of challenging times he’s gone through. His best friend and I talk sometimes online because he’s worried about how he treats me. He said he hadn’t heard any mention of us breaking up, so maybe that’s a good sign.

Should I try reaching out to him once he gets back from vacation? I don’t want to bother him during his trip, but I just want to assure him that I would never do anything to embarrass him or cause any kind of problems around his daughter because he seems to be lumping me in with his exes, who have done some bad things which caused him to lose custody of his daughter in the first place.

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[Cat Familiar]

What do you suppose would happen if you waited for him to contact you?