Hi AcheyMom;
I am curious how common substance abuse is among people with BPD.
My H's kids' mom seems to have a "hot and cold" relationship with smoking (tobacco) -- she either doesn't smoke at all, or rapidly smokes what must be a pack a day (yo-yo weight loss). I have heard that she uses pot and also that she gets drunk. She is in her mid-40s.
There are members on this board whose SO's seem to be "straight edge" -- no smoking, no drinking, no drugs. Those members' SOs, besides the obvious dealing with BPD, may have another non-substance outlet, like food addiction.
I wonder if it's a generational thing, in that for the current generation of young adults wBPD, drugs are much more broadly available, easy to get, destigmatized, and more potent than in the past?
Does your daughter have a diagnosis of substance use disorder? If so, is she accepting of it? Or is it more that all the pieces line up for her having SUD, even without an "official" diagnosis?