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« on: September 17, 2023, 03:16:22 PM »

Hello y'all,

This is my own personal experience. I'm not a doctor and I don't play one on TV.  This info is for the extreme periods, not for a daily thing.

What I have found for me is supplements that help with the bodily feelings of distress. 

Calcium - Magnesium - Zinc  in what ever the proper ratio is.  I take these as a combined form not individual ones.  For me this helps with keeping things down regulated so I'm not as wound up tight.  You'll have to find out the amounts that works best for you personally. 

Some sort of adaptogen like Ashwagandha, it helps with recovery from adrenaline.  You will have to experiment to find the level that works for you.

Niacin, even the non-flushing kind.  It is very beneficial in combating depression and general feelings of bleh.  Again, you will have to experiment to see the daily amounts where you notice a benefit. 

Drinking lots of water.

Chewing gum.  Believe it or not chewing gum helps down regulate the fight / flight / fawn response. 

Do your best to get good sleep, some exercise, and reach out to other people for support.  It may be hard because of the isolation you were in. 

 free crisis help line (USA)
Text HOME to 741741 - volunteers - yet if you need to talk
https://connect.crisistextline.org/chat
Same organization.

Wishing all here, all the best
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« Reply #1 on: September 18, 2023, 06:56:43 AM »

What I have found for me is supplements that help with the bodily feelings of distress. 

this is a great list!

this was a pretty big ordeal for me, in the early days.

i would wake up, and within about 30 minutes, id be hit by an anxiety attack (in retrospect i think this was adrenaline) that would last for hours on end. usually around the time that would settle down, id be hit with crying jags. my sleep schedule was completely upside down, i had all kinds of joint pain show up totally over night. with all of that, it was really hard, for a while, to do the things i was "supposed to do", to form any kind of routine. so, at first, supplements pretty much were my routine.

Some sort of adaptogen like Ashwagandha, it helps with recovery from adrenaline.  You will have to experiment to find the level that works for you.

there are a number of supplements that act as natural anti depressants: SAM-E, 5-htp, St. John's Wort. i found the most success with SAM-E, and it was considerable. after a few days of taking it, the first thing it did was make everything seem smaller and more manageable in my head; really cut down on the endless ruminating.

Passion flower, used for anxiety, stopped my daily anxiety attacks completely; it would stop their progress very quickly, and shortly after that they ended altogether. It can also help with sleep.

Melatonin got my sleep schedule back on track. incidentally, i had sleeping problems (a tendency for my sleep schedule to get wildly off track) for my whole life, until i started taking it. melatonin also gives me a bit of a rush when it kicks in that acts a bit as an antidepressant.

Ashwagandha i tried a little later on. after about two days of it, i felt a very similar effect to that of SAM-E. kinda got me over a hump.
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« Reply #2 on: September 18, 2023, 10:25:44 AM »

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thanks for the additional info!

You have to figure that because of our exposure to the stress and trauma, certain necessary things out bodies need were depleted.

Why not provide our physical beings with what it needs to recover?

Would be cool if more folks would post their experiences.
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