she said we shouldn’t be together but promised to stay in my life

[marubatsu]

hello everyone,  this is my first post and I’m just trying to find ways to cope and kill time while this is happening. PwBPD has essentially called it off with me and says I should find someone better. after this, she said she loved me on new years and I thought things would pick back up. she said we aren’t getting back together but that she wants it to work eventually. I’m in distress and I’ve become completely unlike myself, pushing her way too much and invading her space. currently I believe I’ve been split black and I just need some guidance that can reaffirm that there’s a way to make this better, even if slim. she’s threatened cutting contact twice now, the first time out of fear and the second time because I’ve invaded her space. I know I should give this space, but it’s difficult
and well that’s why I’ve come here, so I don’t do anything to make things worse than they are.

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[tina7868]

Hello marubatsu, welcome to the community!  I`m sorry about the circumstances that brought you here, but glad you have decided to share your story with us.

I can relate to behaving in a way that`s unlike yourself when in distress. It`s a hard place to be in. I think taking a step back to pause and not make things worse is a wise idea.

For that we have a better idea of your situation, could you provide more context? Were you in a relationship with this person? How long did you know each other?