Wherever do I start? How do I get help? How does one go about convincing his/her loved one that he/she might have a personality disorder?
chocolateis#1,
We are here to listen to you and emotionally support you.
I am going to pose a quick question to you - how would you like it if someone you loved, your closest parent, told you that you 'might have a personality disorder'? Your child might be convinced that they don't, so if you told them this, it would not likely go over well. Unless there is overwhelming evidence that they are aware that there is something severely wrong with them, they will likely be in denial and angry at you.
Overwhelming evidence would be suicide attempt, cutting/self-harming, frequent explosive rage episodes, or other severe behavior that is not normal in society.
If they argument a lot, have mood swings, and is not liked, this is often not enough to convince a person with a PD that they have a PD.
Can you share with us why you think your daughter has a PD? If you give specifics, we can suggest specific recommendations / suggestions on how you might want to proceed including an excellent assessment tool.
We are here for you.
I suspect you are worn out by your dear daughter, be sure to be kind to yourself, and practice self-care whatever that may look like for you.
Please come back, so you can begin this journey with us.
Take care.
SD
P.S. I like your name as I agree "Chocolate Is #1" - Especially Dove Dark - that is my favorite. Unfortunately I use that as a pleasant, but fattening, coping mechanism when my person with BPD agitates me.