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After the nuclear implosion of my 6 year relationship/4 year blended family (her cheating, drunken rants at me and my son in front of all the kids (again), driving drunk to son’s game, etc), we’ve decided to split and I’m getting the house per our legal agreement
She refuses to move until mid-summer (she has this right per the agreement) even though she should move sooner and just temporarily rent for 10 different reasons.
The tension and awkwardness in the home is high, it’s weighing on the kids, and shes getting dolled up/doing the walk of shame home after seeing the new supply most days. Her stubbornness doesn’t allow for anyone else’s feelings or emotions. So 6 more months of this.
I’m going to get a temporary place for my boys until she’s (eventually) gone. It’s best for all of our emotional health. My plan is to just pack up all our stuff and get it over there one night when shes in la la land with the POS new supply. Basically just disappear and send a short note after letting her know.
Thoughts on this approach? It will be jolting to the kids (and me), and wont give them any closure with each other, but i don’t know what else to do at this stage. The emotional toil on me and my son is brutal, for different reasons. Open to any suggestions.
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Make sure you follow all the legal details that follow the laws and your agreement. If this agreement wasn't made with the guidance of attorneys, there may be some conflicts so you don't want to get surprised and discover too late you missed some required notices or other terms.
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