My wife put false allegations in a civil protective order on me,
Three days after a guy caught her talking to that she met on Tinder was over the house, for four months she’s insisted that she wants to stay married and that I’m not putting in the work because I’m “making
PLEASE READ up” that there is nothing there they are just friends, of course I don’t believe her especially after the guy reached out and said, at least I respect it until you moved out of the house before I was with her, I went to the house send him photos of her, telling me that she loved me and wanted to be with me and that he was nothing to her, a few days before New Year’s Eve. She split with him after he assaulted her. Then all of a sudden she wanted to be back and she said she just needed time to think then two days later after I heard her texting on the phone while I was talking to her, he was in the picture and I was once again told she needed space still. Fast forward a month and a couple days. I love you. I miss you. You’re the love of my life you’re my person you’re my soulmate. Friday I sent him all those screenshots, he blocked her again and she blamed me of course because it really was my fault but she said she needed closure in order to reconcile with me and I said why if you’re just friends that should be enough, she said I don’t understand. She needs closure because she has BPD. From this forum, I know most people don’t get closure. Yesterday he showed up and he severely hurt her because he was so upset by the text I sent to him. Yesterday she called me and threatened self harm saying it was all my fault that she got hurt which because I sent those text to him might be the case so I feel really bad , so of course I showed up 80 miles away to the house that we used to both live in. I saw three of his hoodies hanging in the closet even though she said he hasn’t been over there since the last assault on Christmas eve, She started crying and I held her. We told each other we loved each other. She asked me pleased to never go away from her again. She tried to justify that she needed closure for us to move forward. She told me she loved me so many times last night as I was driving to the apartment I’m staying in. I really want my wife back because we have an eight month old daughter. she did kind of make it public knowledge last night that we are reconciling because our daughter was with her aunt and we FaceTime’d her together. A smile appeared on our face that ear to ear, she hasn’t seen us together in four months, So, of course, it was pretty exciting for her. But because she did this before and went right back to him, but tries to keep me I believe as her grade a supply because of my job and the fact I’m the father of our daughter, I really don’t know I’m just so confused. I know I want to be with my wife, but I have an immense fear of this happening again in another one or two days, Has anyone had a similar experience or any advice they can give me? It would definitely be appreciated as I am struggling.
