HELLO
Thank you very much for your answer and especially for not taking into account my English mistakes. So, after doing my research and positing that it's probably bpd. In formulating this hypothesis, I also realized that I probably shouldn't have allowed so much time so as not to confirm the belief of abandonment.I really didn't think I'd find out about it in time, considering the beginning, even if there were already some small clues, including the fact that he was a "bit" clingy (but I didn't give in, I tried to set reasonable time limits to spend time together). But always the same, I wonder if he hasn't repressed this discontent, that he doesn't control me on this point, has made him explode much more often afterwards.
in short, if I had to get back in touch I said to myself that we must have the appropriate communication tools because I hope that he gets better I find it a shame that he does not free himself from this disorder, there are apparently solutions with therapy.
But, I also understand that a good environment is also a big plus for him, just like for a person without problems. This is what I was trying to know how to respond if the opportunity presented itself:
projection= example don't get angry when this is not the case.
What should we respond when we see that the other is projecting ? Should i tell him no but maybe it's you... who's angry ?
It doesn't seem appropriate to me because he is very sensitive to criticism and yet sometimes it seems necessary to express constructive criticism
Do we need to say that we miss him and that he can always count on us if he needs him without it accentuating his fear of judgement ?I feel like there needs to be a balance . Not too much, but not enough either ?
thank you very much
Greetings and I hope I find you well.
