how do i communicate

[Hurting2024]

 :help:I admitted I did wrong many years ago this past August ....husband has said he can't/won't forgive me nor will he forget, but....is also in the "I hate you don't leave me"...the daily verbal attacks/name calling/etc....are difficult to manage. I'm trying to stay/still love and care about him but I am not super human...it is hard to speak with empathy between texts and verbal comments while I'm trying to telework etc.  I understand the idea of validating, still reading /listening to more books--Genuine Validation and Communicating with loved one with BPD....have read Eggshells (need to reread) and Essential Family Guide...help? ideas on how to validate/provide empathy and survive the tirades of Mr. Hyde.  Trying to remain functional day to day.  Empty nesters, so no young kids involved.

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hi Hurting2024, and

can you tell us more about what is being said, what hes upset about? what was the wrong you admitted to?