I truly appreciate these posts.
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I have also decided to stay in our relationship, and indeed people have no idea how to help you as Mamabear expresses. I am not blaming them. I was there before my current situation. I am new here in this site. My dear husband has BP traits and other issues that have been diagnosed. He has suffered much in his life. I know I want to be there for him, but I have come to realize that I first need to deal with my issues, take care of myself and build a support system, so I can be there for him.