My ex finance and I were together for four years, we have a two year old son together.
We broke up on 23rd May 2014. Within six weeks she was seeing another man, who I found out was a friend of a friend. He is a psychiatrist and he finished things with her two weeks ago. He found her extremely needy.
I was painted blacker than black, she told me she hated me and wanted never to speak to me again.
Low and behold he dumped her and she paints me white. She is away in Tanzania working in a hospital for 4 weeks (she is a final year med student).
She has been messaging me since she went away telling me she loves me and misses me. She has asked that we spend time together when she gets back for our sons sake. I do still love her but know if I do this I will be back on the boards back to square one.
Before she left we spent a day together with our son, we ended up having sex. I’m very confused because she is getting jealous about me going on dates etc.
What should I do?
Sounds to me like you have already made up your mind to recycle with her and you are looking for ways to rationalise it.
I have recently recycled with my ex with unpleasant results. But I would have to say it has got rid of any "what ifs" and delusions I may have had regarding reunion fantasy's.
I have been reading the posts of "2010" and noting down some of the posts that resonate with me, which includes the following... .
"If it is necessary to seek answers to all of your "what if" questions, then return and reengage your partner. Relive the cycle of denial and anger, and when you come back around to bargaining, you'll know what to do because you have been there before"
I am in AA, and it is a common occurrence for people that are not ready to yet give up drinking to go back out and experience more pain and suffering from their addictions. When they have hit what they call "their" rock bottom, they will do what is necessary to stop the pain.
How much more pain are you prepared to sign up for?