Hello, Daisy23 &
First of all... .don't keep this to yourself. Tell us all, here on the Staying Board; we understand what you are going through
And second: It's great that your husband realized that he needed help 3 years ago and started Therapy; that is
always the first step to making things better for our BPD loved ones. And for us, as
their loved ones, realizing that we need to stop taking their responses to us personally is
our first step to making things better. You are two for two, Daisy23
I actually agree with your Therapist; if something you tell a friend or family member about your husband is likely (or possible) to find its way back to your husband somehow, that would be unproductive... .Tell us your story, instead. How is your husband's Therapy going? Is your Therapist helpful to you? Have the last 3 years been better than your previous years together? Are you seeing progress in the relationship?
I'd like to encourage you to check out the
links to the right-hand side of this page;
The Lessons and other links have so much wonderful information to give you information about how your husband's mind works, and insights into how to deal with him better. The communication tools & techniques you will learn from them can
really help things get better between you.
Have you had the chance to read on this site, yet? Under the 4 photos at the top of the Staying Board's thread listing page are links to several Feature Articles (you can also find them here:
When a partner, spouse or girlfriend has Borderline Personality Disorder), and all of them will really be eye-opening and helpful. The information and tips in them are priceless, in my mind... .
Please hang around and tell us your story, Daisy23, and read all you can... .We are here for you