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Morning everyone. I actually followed through this time, I had made attempts before to leave but this time I fought through the stress and doubt and built a plan. This post is my follow up reflection of how I am feeling now. And the answer is amazing, truly amazing. Leading up to leaving and protecting my daughter I had worried about every little thing. Well here I am just blow away with how much better I feel, like to the point of smiling all the time. Oh don't get me wrong I am damaged to the core, but it all seems less intense. Like waking up from a dream. I stood up for me, and still am and will continue to do so. Oh and she tried and is trying to recycle me but it isn't going to happen. I do mourn for the relationship that was but I won't go back I know better.
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Good to hear this, Knowingishalf
about the smile and being proud of yourself.
Keep going like this.
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FANTASTIC! I'm so happy for you! I'm almost there also, so thank you for turning on that light at the end of the tunnel.
I had texted a friend a thought I had. My BPDex has inferred that I am going to suffer from loneliness. I don't want to break my own NC just to annoy her or return a barb, but I'd love to ask her how I am going to suffer when I am at so much peace without her?
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How long did this process take please? I have tried a few times unsuccessfully to leave, allowed myself to be dragged back in and am trying to leave once again.
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Cheers to you and moving forward.
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It took me almost 3 years to leave. I got so close so many times. This time was different, I fought with myself so much and even on the last day while I was moving out I sat down and almost unpacked my car and came back in. But I pushed through and made it out. I can never go full NC like I would like due to our child. I am going to do what I need to, to keep me happy. The good news is I didn't and with in a single day I felt like a new person. I am more productive at work, I can focus it is the craziest thing.
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