Hi ccart6,
I'd like to welcome you to the group here at bpdfamily. I'm glad that you've found us. I'm also happy that you bring your knowledge and experience with you to share with others. It's not an easy task to navigate through the legal system when you're STBX has an invisible and serious disorder like BPD.
Can you share what happened from then until now? I can relate with the splitting phase, you're under an emotional barrage when you're ex is triggered with abandonment fear, how many kids do you have? How old are they? Do you have full custody. I'm looking forward to hearing your story.